Control Anxiety, Moment to Moment


My Need to Control Anxiety in a More Productive Way

I had a major realization last week.  Learning that I must be able to control anxiety better in my day to day life, I realized that I have a lot of work to do to become a healthier and happier person.

Last Wednesday, I had a rough start to my day before I left home for work.  I woke up late and didn’t have anything ready.  Clothes were not laid out.  Bags and lunches were not packed. Because of all of this, I was late leaving for work.  

Panic Attack

Feeling the pressure of getting out of the house on time, I freaked out.  I experienced a panic attack before I left the house.  Unfortunately, I became extremely irritated and angry, and I lashed out at my family.  This caused such guilt that by the time I got into my car, I was sobbing.  I cried off and on for the entire 30 minute commute.  

I dropped off my two children at school, and was very mean to them when I let them out of the car.  Of course, this made me start crying again.  I felt completely out of control.  My anger was out of control.  And why?  My children did nothing wrong.  This just made me feel even worse.

I went to the school where I teach, and when I entered my classroom, the panic returned.  It felt as if I could not keep my emotions under control.  I felt sick to my stomach for being so awful to my husband and children.  With only about 5 minutes before school started, I went to my principal and told him I had to leave. I didn’t believe I could teach without showing any negative emotions.  It was definitely a moment of weakness.  When I look back at that moment, I am ashamed of just how weak I was and how poorly I handled my anxiety.

I Realized That I Need to Work Harder at Controlling Anxiety

A very good friend pointed out to me that I must be able to control anxiety in situations such as these.  I have been researching ways to help lower my overall anxiety and calm my nerves.  

I do take medication to help control anxiety, but it obviously is not a cure-all.  When it comes to controlling my emotions, I realize that it is necessary that I become more proactive.  

Since last week, I have done several different things to try to calm my nerves and control anxiety.  I would like to share a few of these with you.  Hopefully some of these things will help you too.

Practices I Have Put Into Place

  1. Listen to relaxing music.  –  I enjoy listening to contemporary Christian music on Pandora.  I find it really lifts my spirits.  Whatever you listen to, make sure that it is just something that you truly enjoy.  
  2. Read a good book. –  I just happened to read the “good book” this past weekend.  Recently, I purchased a new Bible and decided to read some scriptures.  I found comfort in reading God’s Word.
  3. Color – I know this may seem kind of silly, but adult coloring books are really in right now.  I have several of these and some really nice colored pencils that my husband bought for me.  The pencils are Prismacolor and are very good quality.  These colors are very vibrant and I highly recommend them.  The  Bible I happened to buy a couple of weeks ago is a journaling Bible.  It has pictures and scripture in some of the margins that you can color.  So I picked out my favorite verse and decided to color it.  This is a great activity for mindfulness.  It means you are living right now in the moment.
  4. Sit quietly and just breathe. – Again, this is a mindfulness activity.   Sit in a comfy chair, drink a warm cup of coffee and just focus on breathing.  I intentionally pay attention to each breath going in and out of my lungs and simply clear my mind.  I am out of the habit of meditation, but even just doing this for 10 minutes makes me feel much calmer and in control.  
  5. Prepare everything for work and school the night before. – I try to make sure to have mine and my kids clothes ready for school for the next morning.  It saves so much time, and there is much less hassle getting out of the door on time in the morning.
  6. Do something that makes you happy. – For me, this is crafting.  I enjoy making crafts, and I find that sitting and making new things is so relaxing.  I literally feel the anxiety leaving my body.
  7. Search for inspirational or motivational quotes. – I like to look at Pinterest and find things that inspire me or just make me think about what is important in my life.  I enjoy finding new ideas for crafts to make or finding motivational Bible verses.

What is important is that you find something you enjoy doing.   Maybe you can go for a walk or play with a pet.   Don’t be afraid of trying something new or something that you have always wanted to try but just haven’t yet.  There are so many things that can help control anxiety and make you feel so much better.  Good luck!

What Do You Do to Control Anxiety?

What are some techniques do you do to help relieve anxiety and calm your nerves?  How do you stop a panic attack from taking over your emotions?  Please feel free to leave a comment.

God bless,


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About Marji Lane

Born, raised, and lived my whole life in Kansas, I am a full time teacher, wife, and mother. I suffer from anxiety and depression and have to work everyday to keep my mental illness under control. I love God, my family, KU basketball, KC Royals baseball, crafting!

4 thoughts on “Control Anxiety, Moment to Moment

  1. Marji:
    I too have anxiety. The meds help but you are more mindful. When I have a “bad day” my family and co workers just take the brunt of my issues. that’s not right You have given me some awareness, Thank you

    1. Hi Susan, I am glad you shared this with me. I am definitely not an expert and it took a friend to tell me to get my act together. Unfortunately my family and my students often take the brunt of my issues. And, that is not fair to them. It just makes me depressed when it happens. This is exactly what happened last week. I was so unnerved by the panic attack that it caused me to be depressed the rest of the day. It was a tough day. I see a therapist every other week too. She has helped tremendously. I have my next appointment with her this afternoon and I plan to ask for some advice on how to deal with a panic attack while it is happening so that I won’t feel the need to get out of the building. It causes a lot of stress on the other staff to find a sub at the last minute. I think it will be my next topic on the next blog post I write. I just want to thank you again for reading my blog. It means a lot to me and I really do hope that I can help as many people as possible. I know I am still learning how to write good content that will be helpful. But, it is nice to know that there are a few out there that it may be possibly helping as well. Take care, and feel free to ask any questions if you have them. Or, if you have a certain area you would like me to touch on, I would be more than happy to write a post on that too. Thanks again!

  2. Dear Marji, Hi, I just read your last two entries and marvel at the way you meet your problems head on and that has to be hard. You do really good at finding the answers for those problems. It’s good that school is out and you have time to make goals that will keep you busy. But give yourself some time for yourself.
    Margie brought me a new laptop computer and I am trying to get to learn how to use it and make it do what I want. Actually this is the second one she got. The first one didn’t work very good. Or I couldn’t make it work.. Love you Marji, Oh so much!!!!!! Love, Grandma

    1. Hi Grandma! Thank you for reading my blog posts. At least I know I have one person who will!😄. Seriously though, I do appreciate it. I understand having issues with your computer. I am glad you were able to get a new one. I have had problems with my website but it is fixed now. I hope I can start to get some more people to my site now. I can’t even explain how much I truly love you in actual words. It is too hard to do. It is the same way when I try to say how much I love a lot of special people in my life. God bless you always!! ❤️❤️❤️🌻🐞

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